Goodbye to Shy: 85 Shybusters That Work!

This Shybusters book is the best I have read. While I am not a blubbering idiot around women, I do tend to get tongue-tied. Well, this book solved that problem. It's about getting more confidence through steps, not instantenously. The author's Sybusters tips throughout the book helped even more, especially the ones aimed at dating. Overall, it's about getting out there and feeling the fear and doing it anyway, as they say. For that, this book can't be beat. Another that helped me as well was How To Be The Man Women Want: The Get More Confidence and Meet Better Women Guide To Dating.

About six months ago I purchased a similar book by Leil Lowndes called How to Talk to Anyone, which was recommended in another book on meeting women. Eventually this book was recommended to me through Amazon and I'm glad I bought it.

Compared to the other Lowndes book which is great in its own respect, this book is much more focused on working through problems of shyness and social anxiety which has been an issue for me in the past. One of the major breakthroughs I had while reading this was an acceptance that I'm a shy person and that I can't pretend otherwise or try to be someone that I'm not. Ultimately you're not really addressing the problem and people will see through those deceptions.

Instead, the book offers baby-step tips on that can help you overcome shyness and other issues when dating, having casual conversations, dealing with social events like parties and even going on interviews. By just taking the techinques one at a time I was never overwhelmed. I gained little bits of knowledge and insight every few pages and then I would put the book down, think about it for a day or two and then try to put it into practice.

I would never move on in the book unless I felt I made some progress and slowly but surely I gained more confidence and fewer people perceived me as being shy (yeah, I asked). Ultimately, I felt more confident and now I don't have a problem making small talk and getting into the mix. That was my goal and this book had a hand in helping me reach it.

I recommend both this book and the author's How to Talk to Anyone, which was recommended in another great book on meeting women and dating called Secrets of the A Game: How to Meet and Attract Women Anywhere, Anyplace, Anytime

I was recently laid off from work and in the spirit of "reinvention", decided to open up my own small business. As I began to develop my business plan, I realized my success as an entrepreneur will not be a result of what I know, but rather, of who I know. Analytical and introverted by nature, my comfort zone is working at my computer, and certainly not networking and socializing. And do I decided to spend some time developing my social skills, and went in search of some helpful reading.

When I came across "Goodbye to Shy", I was skeptical at first to say the least, expecting that a lifetime of shyness could not be "cured" through reading a self-help book. But through the candid wisdom of her writing, Liel Lowndes has quite literally changed my life forever. I began to realize that while some people ("Sures") seem to be naturally blessed with the confidence to interact with other human beings with ease, those of us who are not that fortunate can LEARN to adopt new habits. We can actually and mindfully develop new habits that will enrich our relationships with others and subsequently, enrich every aspect of our lives.

For example, as a mother of three, it comes quite naturally for me to turn my body completely toward my child tugging on my hem, bend down so that she can see me at eye level, and give her my complete and undivided attention. Liel explains that adults are not unlike children, and although I may feel uncomfortable, turning my body toward the person speaking to me, focusing my eyes upon them and giving them my undivided attention makes the other person feel at ease and attended to, which will leave a lasting impression.

Eager for more, I followed "Goodbye to Shy" with "How to Talk to Anybody", which took the foundations for human interaction that I learned in "Goodbye to Shy" to the next level.

Now, I actually look forward to the next social event, or business lunch, or networking event, or seminar, or coffee break, with confidence and excitement. I have learned that even the most prominent and well-respected professionals in my industry are approachable human beings - who share hundreds of commonalities with me that make us all human. I learned that you would be surprised how many other established, well-spoken and confident professionals share my trepidation in a social setting.

I am eagerly looking forward to the release of Liel's new book, "How to Instantly Connect with Anyone". Liel, again, you have changed my life forever, and I can't thank you enough for your selfless effort to share your wisdom with countless others. I wish you all the success as a writer that you could have ever hoped for.

Even if you're not shy, Leil outlines many aspects of personal relations that are beneficial for everyone. In a humorous way, she sites real-life examples (many of her own) that point out where a shy may have shortcomings. She then explains why you may behave the way you do and offers alternatives to get past the shy behavior. I have this in audio book format and listen to it while driving. I drive for a living and I've listened to it three times so far. Each time I listen, I pick up some useful bit of data I missed previously. I recommend 100%! Thanks Leil!!

This is a great book for the shy. I have read a few books on this topic, and this one is by far the best. I found many of the author's suggestions and words very helpful. It is also quite a funny and entertaining read. I found myself laughing out loud often. I highly recommend.