For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood

Although the author does a good job of describing difficult mother/daughter relationships, she lays all the work to repair the Mom/Daughter relationship squarely on the Mom, over and over again. Do this, do that, etc. etc. She tries not to "blame" the Mom, but, throughout the book, tells Mom what Mom needs to do to repair the relationship. What about what daughters need to do? I guess, nothing, since they are difficult, thus the title of the book and they, the difficult daughters gets a pass. It's not a balanced presentation on how both parties should work to repair the relationship. Or perhaps, the author needs to give Mom a pass, and tell her not to bother, if daughter is so "difficult". She offers only one solid working suggestion for the daughter, not practical, if you live any distance apart, ask your daughter to go into therapy with you.

This book was very helpful in many ways. I thought it was very up to date with today's parent and adult child thought patterns and reads very nicely. It offered various alternatives to reconnect with your adult daughter whether she lives with you or has been out of your life for years. It offered various strategies for many types of situations that sounded reasonable and workable for both parties. It also helped solidify several areas I was already working on; some of those areas were to stop asking questions, stop offering unsolicited advice, and get involved in your own life. Overall, I found it very helpful and highly recommend it.

Is Unbelievable How some one can be conciderd an Expert, when Her own family life has been in shambles, I guess practice what you preach is not something they teach you in school.
The book is based on clinical mumbo-jumbo. and has no basis in reality.
Just my own opinion

How could I explain one child that was easy to get along with and another child that was not? They were raised the same way. I made parenting mistakes, but there weren't severe. Our home was loving, our marriage healthy, the children loved. Why was it so hard? This book offers solace to mother's who feel lost and terribly saddened by their difficult relationship with their daughter. It also offers excellent tips for improving your relationship with your daughter, without blaming either party. In my case, it was as simple as learning to hold back on offering advice and learning how to make sympathetic noises instead. Within just a few months, her screaming outbursts had stopped and I was no longer being wounded. One and a half years later, my daughter calls me her best friend. I learned how we all have a "perfect" daughter imagined in our mind and we must let go of those images and learn to love who our daughter is. It sounds simple, but it is not. People are born with different personalities and some people are naturally prickly and irritable. I appreciate the author who helped me see this and helped me see that I did not fail the daughter I love so much.

How could I explain one child that was easy to get along with and another child that was not? They were raised the same way. I made parenting mistakes, but there weren't severe. Our home was loving, our marriage healthy, the children loved. Why was it so hard? This book offers solace to mother's who feel lost and terribly saddened by their difficult relationship with their daughter. It also offers excellent tips for improving your relationship with your daughter, without blaming either party. In my case, it was as simple as learning to hold back on offering advice and learning how to make sympathetic noises instead. Within just a few months, her screaming outbursts had stopped and I was no longer being wounded. One and a half years later, my daughter calls me her best friend. I learned how we all have a "perfect" daughter imagined in our mind and we must let go of those images and learn to love who our daughter is. It sounds simple, but it is not. People are born with different personalities and some people are naturally prickly and irritable. I appreciate the author who helped me see this and helped me see that I did not fail the daughter I love so much.