Radical Honesty, The New Revised Edition: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth

This book is one that will have you rethinking how you conduct your life. Who you really are. It could be a life transforming piece of writing. The only reason I give it 4 stars vs 5 stars, is that the author jumps around a bit with his thoughts, so at times the book can be hard to follow. BUT, to the authors defense, he states in the beginning that he is NOT a writer, he does not plan to stick to form, etc. So, he does warn the reader! Regardless, an excellent book!

Man o man this is some seriously dangerous stuff. I tried some Radical Honesty at home and my girlfriend threw a ceramic jug at me. `Yes your butt looks big in that', after answering the question reluctantly, under duress led to the chastity belt being firmed-up for a week and a half. I stopped short of admitting that, `yes I want to ram-stein Paula, Natalie etc... like a toey bonobo' which would have prematurely arrested my life. Please read this book with caution unless of course you are married to a supermodel with an equally charmed intellect and a great derrier who cooks like Ferran Adria and for whom it is never nessesary to guild the lily. Note: Blanton has gone through more wedding rings than Zsa Zsa Gabor.

This book has definetely helped me in my search for transformation. I could not stop reading. It's fully loaded with usable information which anyone can practice and opens the door to new possibilities in a person's life through radical honesty. I really recommend this book to anyone in search of recconection with themselves and thus, with the Universe. Very thought provoking!

Having become a pathological liar as a defense mechanism from my childhood. When my wife left me for lying, I thought I needed a new approach.

Radical Honesty is about opening up. A girl I am/was dating and I discused this book. Especially the part... I resent you for XXX and then we traded She resents me for YYY. We went through several iterations of this, and then went through the I accept you for ZZZ and then she accepted me for WWW.
This created a clearing for us. For example I resent her for getting me out of my basement. I don't particularly like public places and she seems to get me out of my hole and into public places. Is that absurd... YES. Is it a reality of how I feel YES! But we lauged together, because of course I censored myself prior to that exercise because it was absurd.

Emotions aren't always making the best choices for how we feel in any given situation, but pin up one of those emotions such as fear anger or sadness. And you have yourself a ticking time bomb.

In the example above I had an absurd repressed anger, and she had some of her own. But expressing it in the I feel .... when You... (because..... ) format put it out in the open and I transformed a little tad of mad into an enjoyable evening of glad.

So That night I was IN integrity with myself and I was fully self expressed with my date. Now I can see if you can share the little absurd ones, you can share the big ones too. "I resent you when you kissed a guy I don't know on the cheek".... or "I accept you for singing to me when I was in the dumps"

Awesome book. Its taken a lot of commitment to eradicate pathological liar from my character, but it has been very worthwhile and this book is a stepping stone for me to get back into relationship with others, and it gives me some exercises to go through very early in the dating process.

Ciao!
~Matt

Yes, we should be more honest with each other, and yes, we do cause ourselves ontold problems by withholding. Let also admit, that total honesty all the time is just not practical; civilized society needs a glue or each one of us would go off on whatever they learn. Read the book, it has a fresh perspective and something we all can learn