 Re: 'the'
vil, I think you're trying too hard to use long or unusual words, or certain idioms; this makes your meaning unclear, because the words you use are sometimes inappropriate for the context.
For example, you ask me what I am "driving at" with my "insinuating remarks". That means you think I am trying to accuse you of wrong-doing or make you look bad, and are challenging me to defend my remarks. You also use the word "censorious", which means you think I am trying to stop you from saying what you want to say.
This is what is termed "fighting talk"; in other words, it sounds as if you are goading me into an argument.
I am sure you don't intend anything of the sort, but you must be aware that the language you use is not appropriate for this context. If you try using simpler language, your message will be less easily misunderstood. For example:
"Could you explain what you mean when you say I didn't express myself clearly?"
That's a polite request instead of a challenge; it's not "fighting talk". |