Hi naomimalan,
Thank you for your circumstantial explanation. Your statement is very close to my original speculation. There is, in my humble opinion, a subtle difference between “it is for you (he) to decide) and “it was decided by others (not by me, he etc).
I reserve further judgements in order to evade a penalty of someone person which probably have supersensitive, itching ears and cannot stand me and my imperfect, mutilated English.
Regards.
V.