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Dear Teachers and Friends,
Can I ask you to find any mistakes I made?
Thanks.

My father always tells me: "Conflicts in a marriage is a sign of the normality and happen even to a perfect couple." And he adds: "Do not try to fully understand your wife as you are doomed to fail." Men and women are too different to be able to live without any misunderstandings and at the same time they need each other so badly in order to live a happy and a complete life. Unless, of course, someone chooses to be single. Arguments are also required for a relationship to grow and become stronger.

The problem is not that I make a mistake. My reaction to it is crucial here. Being able to say "I was wrong, I am sorry" just to make my wife happy and maintain the harmony is all that matters. My father and my mother set a good example for me doing it all their life even though they are not perfect people.

It all sounds quite easy in theory but it is very hard to do in practice. Being inclined to be offended for a long time and to stop talking to each other is something we have to avoid at any cost! We need to talk, however, talking does not mean completely understand your partner. "Empathy and love should do the job", my father says. Still, the desire to admit to the mistakes has to be mutual and truthful as a happy marriage consists of two people.

According to divorce statistics, every third couple get divorced in my country. It is hard to believe considering Poland a catholic country. Choose your spouse carefully and reasonably, as I did, if you do not want to have this experience, which is said to be one of the worst and most traumatic of all.