Twostep,
a) Yes, speaking is a part of every language, Saussure would fully agree with you. But, I never had anyone to practise with and while I do speak aloud to myself in English, what I hear and what natives hear might not be the same. What I thought it was ok, now I'm finding out it is
not ok. That and I read a lot.
That's how I learned 90% of the English I know now. You don't need to speak to read, do you?
b) Maybe you and your husband are two of the lucky people who find pronunciation easy. I'm certainly not. Maybe you practised a lot (that's one of the things I would've liked to know).
c) Actually, what I expected to hear were the experiences of other
ESL students. If they started at a later age, when did they notice a positive difference in their pronunciation? Stuff like that.
If all you could see in my post was that I needed guests to my 'pity party', then I must've not expressed myself correctly. All I wanted was an exchange experiences, that's all.
Abby