demanding for a explanation

I have just met a colleague and after telling her I'd missed her at the welcoming recepetion to new employees yesterday, she tried to justify herself repeatedly for having missed the event. I wanted to tell her that I never meant to demand an explanation, but I wanted to have said that in one word (an adjective most likely). What could it be? Something that could be used in a sentence like "Oh, I didn't mean to be..." or "Please, do not take me wrong. I wasn't being..."

[Buddhaheart]

How about just plain ‘demanding’; or ‘rude’, pushy‘, ‘pesky’, ‘annoying’, ‘a pest’, ‘impolite’, ‘bossy’, ‘domineering’, ‘controlling’, ‘a control freak’, ...

[RonBee]

I think rude is your best choice.

~R

[Jason72]

Yep! Rude is the best! (Don't get me wrong! )

Good night people, it's 01:08, I can't keep my eyes open!

[mykwyner]

What you didn't mean to be was accusatory. If you tell someone that you missed him at a meeting, that is not rude. If that person thinks that he needs to explain himself, then he mistook your sincere concern for an accusation of incompetence; he thought you were being accusatory.

[RonBee]

Try:

I didn't mean to accuse you of anything.

~R

[mykwyner]

Ron,
Great Tar Heel minds think alike.

Mike

[RonBee]

Originally Posted by mykwyner

Ron,
Great Tar Heel minds think alike.

Mike

[Barb_D]

Or "critical."
I wasn't being critical - I just meant that I was sorry not to see you there!

[Buddhaheart]

Here’re 2 more to really give Unregistered a good choice: nosy, prying.