A Gentleman by John Henry Newman

[albertino]

What do the words underlined mean?
"The true gentleman in like manner carefully avoids whatever may cause a jar or a jolt in the minds of those with whom he is cast;- all clashing of opinion, or collision of feeling, all restraint, or suspicion, or gloom, or resentment; his great concern being to make every one at their ease and at home. He has his eyes on all his company: he is tender towards the bashful, gentle towards the distant, and merciful towards the absurd..."
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[Anglika]

Originally Posted by albertino

What do the words underlined mean?
"The true gentleman in like manner carefully avoids whatever may cause a jar or a jolt in the minds of those with whom he is cast;- all clashing of opinion, or collision of feeling, all restraint, or suspicion, or gloom, or resentment; his great concern being to make every one at their ease and at home. He has his eyes on all his company: he is tender towards the bashful, gentle towards the distant, and merciful towards the absurd..."
Thanks a million.

A wonderful and pertinent quote.

"cause a jar or a jolt" = avoid shocking or startling those he is dealing with.

"with whom he is cast" = here "cast" means "finds himself connected with".

"gentle towards the distant" = he is not aggressive with those whose manner is reserved and restrained.