to me-for me

[Mhd shaher]

hello members..

-it's hard to me
-it's hard for me
what is the right sentence..
and where can I use (to me) or (for me)?..

Best Wishes

[Aligor]

"It's hard for me"

As for using "to me" and "for me", in the beginning you will just have to remember as many correct combinations as possible and the more you learn the easier it will be to understand the difference between the two.

[David L.]

It depends on what the speaker is referring to.

I'm having trouble doing something. A friend helps me out and does it very quickly and easily. I might say, "Yes, well, easy for you to do but it seemed damn hard to me." - 'to me' =from my point of view, my perspective, in my mind, (when I tried to grasp how to go about doing it.)
"It's hard for me to understand how you could do such a thing!" = It is beyond my ability, comprehension, my capacity to understand.

[Aligor]

I do agree with David about this:

"Yes, well, easy for you to do but it seemed damn hard to me."

In this case "seemed" is the word due to which "to" needs to be used, it proves my point that it's practically impossible to explain the difference between "to me" and "for me".

[David L.]

Actually, if you read the (= ...
part of my response, I did try to explain the difference between 'to me' and 'for me'.

[banderas]

Originally Posted by Mhd shaher

hello members..

-it's hard to me
-it's hard for me
what is the right sentence..
and where can I use (to me) or (for me)?..

Best Wishes

It depends on how the subject of the sentence is relating to you. "Gardening is unimportant to me".

Or what the subject of the sentence is doing for you. "Gardening is like a therapy for me. I love it". "For" is more emotional than "to".

If I am trying to explain how I understand something written, done or said by someone else, I would say "to me". "Yes, well, easy for you to do but it seemed damn hard to me".

If I am trying to explain my own usage, what I did myself , I would say "for me"
"Ronaldo, you played very well tonight" Yes, it was easy for me to score against Roma tonight", said Ronaldo

Having said that, I beileve that it is hard for me sounds better.

To sum up, I don't think it is important to get involved too much into "to me and for me" structures, as the distinction is really slight even for native speakers except David (see his explanation about "easy for you to do but it seemed damn hard to me").
cheers
Ps. Who is as happy as Ronaldo and me tonight after 2:0 win against Roma?

[Aligor]

Actually, if you read the (= ...
part of my response, I did try to explain the difference between 'to me' and 'for me'.

David,

I was speaking about "for me" vs. "to me" in a broader sense, not referring to the examples of "hard for me" vs. "hard to me". I will try to stick to the point in the future.

[jctgf]

hi,
can i always use "to me" when i want to say "in my opinion"?
and "for me" in any other situation?
thanks