lack thereof / take sb for granted

How to understand the red ones? sorry for my long question ....quite eager to know what it means . thanks anyway !

It’s not what your boyfriend says but does that should serve as the true testament of his love for you or lack thereof. Right now he’s taking you for granted, denying you in front of others and dedicating much of his life energy, not to mention his gift-related financial resources, to another woman. He also appears to be stringing you along, hoping to keep you as his sexual safety net in the event he should lose his footing in the affair. Not much of a testament there.
Regardless of whether or not he is sleeping with his coworker, it’s likely he’s already cheating on you, as infidelity has an emotional component as well as a physical one. The more time he spends with her, the more likely it is that he will reveal areas of his emotional life, or details regarding your relationship that you consider to be special things the two of you should share. At the same time he may begin to shut you out of these types of discussions. Sometimes, especially for women, this type of emotional betrayal can be more difficult to accept than sexual infidelity.

[Steven D]

It’s not what your boyfriend says but does that should serve as the true testament of his love for you or lack thereof. <<<<

lack thereof - not enough love for you in your relationship

I would refer to the definition of "thereof". If we say something is "lacking" then it means that it is not sufficient in some way. This could have to do with quantity or quality.

http://dictionary.reference.com/search?r=8&q=thereof


Right now he’s taking you for granted <<

If we take something for granted, we don't really appreciate it or understand its true value. For example, water is something many people take for granted.

Here's another way of looking at "take for granted". If we take something for granted, we could assume or believe that it will always exist.

http://home.t-online.de/home/toni.go...0for%20granted

[Francois]

Not much of a testament there

=> this behavior doesn't show that he cares about you.

as infidelity has an emotional component as well as a physical one.

There is a "romantic" part, and a sexual one.

The more time he spends with her, the more likely it is that he will reveal areas of his emotional life, or details regarding your relationship that you consider to be special things the two of you should share

They will talk about parts of your relation that are not supposed to be exposed to someone else.

FRC