an ignored value

keannu · Nov 15, 2013

1. Considering the whole context, what do you think "an ignored value " or "misdirected passion" means? Can this be an example? If you are always healty by working out regularly, but see your children too lazy to work out and get sick often, you may get mad and yell at them "Do exercise", and you value "health". but still this doens't seem to explain the phrases.
2. Does What about these situations upset you most? make sense? I don't know if it does,it seems to be a typo or something.

26) One of the ways to identify your values is to look at what frustrates or upsets you. Anger often indicates an ignored value or a misdirected passion. Think of specific times when you were mad or frustrated. What about these situations upset you most? Write down your descriptions of them. To find your values, reflect on the words or phrases you’ve written to focus on what’s most important to you. For example, if you get annoyed when someone asks you about something he could figure out for himself, perhaps you value resourcefulness, independence, or taking care of oneself.

Raymott · Nov 15, 2013

keannu said:
1. Considering the whole context, what do you think "an ignored value " or "misdirected passion" means? Can this be an example? If you are always healty by working out regularly, but see your children too lazy to work out and get sick often, you may get mad and yell at them "Do exercise", and you value "health". but still this doens't seem to explain the phrases.
2. Does What about these situations upset you most? make sense? I don't know if it does,it seems to be a typo or something.

26) One of the ways to identify your values is to look at what frustrates or upsets you. Anger often indicates an ignored value or a misdirected passion. Think of specific times when you were mad or frustrated. What about these situations upset you most? Write down your descriptions of them. To find your values, reflect on the words or phrases you’ve written to focus on what’s most important to you. For example, if you get annoyed when someone asks you about something he could figure out for himself, perhaps you value resourcefulness, independence, or taking care of oneself.

"An ignored value" is something that you value that you are ignoring. You are suppressing your values for some reason. A "misdirected passion" is an emotion that you are directing at the wrong thing." It's psychological "displacement" - a defence mechanism. For example, you are angry at your boss, so when you get home, you kick the dog - a displacement of emotions onto an inappropriate object.
2. "What upset you the most about these situations?" The original is grammatical.

keannu · Nov 15, 2013

1.Thanks a lot! By "You are suppressing your values for some reason", do you mean "the value you are ignoring" is a negative value that you think is not desirable? If you get angry with your lazy children, is the "laziness" a value you are against, so implying "diligence" is what you pursue?
2. You mean both are correct?
"What upset you the most about these situations?" What about these situations upset you most?

Raymott · Nov 16, 2013

keannu said:
1.Thanks a lot! By "You are suppressing your values for some reason", do you mean "the value you are ignoring" is a negative value that you think is not desirable? If you get angry with your lazy children, is the "laziness" a value you are against, so implying "diligence" is what you pursue?
2. You mean both are correct?
"What upset you the most about these situations?" What about these situations upset you most?

1. No. Values are positive. You might value not getting angry at your children. So, if you get angry at them for some reason, you are ignoring that value.
2. They are both correct. The version I gave you is more natural.

emsr2d2 · Nov 16, 2013

Also, if you ignore a value, you (for some reason) choose to overlook something good about a person or about a situation. You might have a work colleague who is very kind but has a habit of singing too loudly during work time, drinking all the coffee in the kitchen without replacing it and who always parks their car badly in the work car park. You might find yourself quite cross with that person because of those last three things and find yourself completely overlooking/ignoring the fact that they are actually a very kind person.

keannu · Nov 16, 2013

Is "the ignored value" you mentioned related to this case or are the two different? It seems you can find what you value from an ignored value. You may have not noticed that you value "not getting angry at your childre", but you happen to find it while disobeying it, right? It's quite confusing to understand the passage.

For example, if you get annoyed when someone asks you about something he could figure out for himself, perhaps you value resourcefulness, independence, or taking care of oneself

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