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    Is it I/me who bother/s you?

    Is it I who bother you? If I use 'me', does the verb change to 'bothers'?

    Is it me who bothers you?

    Thanks in advance.


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    Re: Is it I/me who bother/s you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Tan Elaine View Post
    Is it I who bother you? If I use 'me', does the verb change to 'bothers'?

    Is it me who bothers you?

    Thanks in advance.
    Relative pronouns in English govern, and have always governed, the verb according to their antecedent. A first-person antecedent requires a first-person verb, a second-person antecedent a second-person verb, and so forth.

    Now it is your turn to answer your question.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tan Elaine View Post
    Is it I who bother you? If I use 'me', does the verb change to 'bothers'?

    Is it me who bothers you?

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    Yes, you are right. Who refers to objective form 'me' which is singular.
    with plural the verb will change; as: Is it we who bother you?


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    Re: Is it I/me who bother/s you?

    Quote Originally Posted by sarat_106 View Post
    Yes, you are right. Who refers to objective form 'me' which is singular.
    with plural the verb will change; as: Is it we who bother you?
    No, (s)he is definitely not right. 'me' is not only singular but also first person. Singular first person does not get an -s inflection. Only singular third person does.

    Quote Originally Posted by sarat_106 View Post
    Yes, you are right. Who refers to objective form 'me' which is singular.
    'bother' is a verb and 'bothers' is not a noun inflected for plural.


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    Re: Is it I/me who bother/s you?

    Short answers 4 - grammar - central - British Council - LearnEnglish
    I mean that it is me who thinks it is necessary. In this case, in British English, we would not normally use have to. In American English, however, have to is more common.

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    Re: Is it I/me who bother/s you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Tan Elaine View Post
    Is it I who bother you? If I use 'me', does the verb change to 'bothers'?

    Is it me who bothers you?

    Thanks in advance.
    The use of object-case pronouns as subject complements to the copula is not a rule but a widely tolerated deviation. If, therefore, by asking 'does the verb change?' you are enquiring about what is grammatically correct, the answer is that there is no "correct" form for the verb in this situation, any more than there is a "correct" way to jaywalk or to run a red light!

    If, however, you are asking whether it is common practice to employ a third-person verb here, then the answer is yes, although many would justifiably argue that to construct the sentence thus is simply to compound one error with another (to extend the previous analogy, rather like spitting on the road as you jaywalk across it).

    Standard formal usage requires nominative 'I' as complement here, which naturally requires a first-person verb, giving '...I who bother...'. I would strongly suggest that you stick to this tried-and-trusted formula, at least in any situation where you might be judged on the basis of your English skills!


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    Re: Is it I/me who bother/s you?

    which naturally requires a first-person verb, giving '...I who bother...'. I would strongly suggest that you stick to this tried-and-trusted formula, at least in any situation where you might be judged on the basis of your English skills!
    Thanks for the confirmation.

    Strictly speaking, 'me' is not correct, but then, this is what 99% of N(N)ES would say.

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    Re: Is it I/me who bother/s you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kondorosi View Post
    Thanks for the confirmation.

    Strictly speaking, 'me' is not correct, but then, this is what 99% of N(N)ES would say.
    Indeed, as stated, common practice...

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    Re: Is it I/me who bother/s you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kondorosi View Post
    Thanks for the confirmation.

    Strictly speaking, 'me' is not correct, but then, this is what 99% of N(N)ES would say.
    What does "N(N)ES " stand for? Is it a recognised abbreviation?

    Thanks in advance.


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    Re: Is it I/me who bother/s you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Tan Elaine View Post
    What does "N(N)ES " stand for? Is it a recognised abbreviation?

    Thanks in advance.
    It is an acronym which stands for N(on)-N(ative) E(nglish) S(peaker).

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