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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    personally i would say "Tom is getting married along with Tim", as it still sounds odd otherwise, or maybe id say he's getting married at the same time as Tim....

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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    You get married with a hope, love and a song in your heart.
    Why Men Like to Get Married With Asian Girls by Jenny Willston.
    Get Married with a Las Vegas Train Wedding.
    This happened to me when I get married with my high school sweetheart.







    Back in the day, when people tended to grow up in the town they were born in, get married to their high school sweetheart, and land their first job.
    Sooner or later the men who get married to the women they think they love will end up having to start over because that relationship will not last.
    Do people get married to benefit the community? Why doesn't the state just consider it a private contract? Walker: &quot.
    Dancergrl: You have to be really careful about who you get married to.

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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    Marry/ Get Married/ Be Married A lot of people get confused about how to use these words. Maybe this will help.

    to marry (someone)
    - this is the general verb. It is the time when people come together as husband and wife. Do not say I married with someone. It is not correct. And do not say I married to someone. It is also incorrect.
    Correct example: I married Sam 3 years ago.
    to get married- this talks about the time two people got married. It makes us think of the wedding.
    Correct example: I got married.
    to get married to (someone)- We think of who was married in the wedding. Do not say I got married with someone. It is incorrect.
    Correct example: I got married to Sam.
    to get married in (someplace)- We think of where the wedding took place.
    Correct Example: I got married in Hawaii.
    to be married- This means a state of being. Are you married or are you single?
    Correct Example: I am married.
    to be married (to someone)- Also state of being. But who is married to you?
    Correct Example: I am married to Sam.
    Conclusion- When you use to marry or to get married, think about the wedding. When you use to be married, think about the person's life now.

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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    Quote Originally Posted by nicolewatson View Post
    personally i would say "Tom is getting married along with Tim", as it still sounds odd otherwise, or maybe id say he's getting married at the same time as Tim....
    I agree.

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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    Quote Originally Posted by christopher mark kohler View Post
    In my OPINION, one should say "married with", even though the accepted norm is "married to". Similarly, A long ago professor of mine made me aware that it was more polite to say "talk with" instead of "talk to".
    I don't believe the two usages are parallel. The first, "married to," describes a reciprocal relationship that requires legal sanction, so "to get married to" simply describes participating in a ceremony that confers legal status.

    "Talk with" vs. "talk to," on the other hand, raises the issue of whether two people are speaking to each other on equal terms. "Talk with" implies that they might be. "Talk to" implies that they may not be. A friend "talks with" another. A judge "talks to" a witness.

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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    Quote Originally Posted by magimagicE View Post
    It would make me cringe if I were to hear someone say "Get married with", and in the same vein, "Talk with".

    It is bloody annoying because it sounds like self censorship stretched to the point of political correctness gone mad.

    AmE is to blame as that is the main proponent of the "...with" usage.
    Oh, dear, you sound rather annoyed, but I'm afraid you've been misinformed about AmE being the main proponent of the "with" usage. It is not common here. My impression is that when it is occasionally used, it is a mistaken attempt to parallel a phrase in certain marriage ceremonies that refers to one member of a couple being "joined with" another in holy matrimony.

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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    Quote Originally Posted by Mzungu39 View Post
    What are the Americans taught at school?
    I have the same question for the use of Present Perfect. As far as I know in AE it is very often, if not always, replaced by Past Simple.

    I would appreciate if someone (a native) can answer these questions; I'm really interested in such differences.
    I'm an American speaker and writer, and in AmE, the use of the Present Perfect tense is still taught in school and remains alive and well in general usage. It in no way has been replaced with the Past Simple tense, as you claim. The distinction regarding continuing vs. completed action is one which we Americans continue to find entirely useful, and it is a disctinction of which we remain keenly aware.

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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    Quote Originally Posted by MiaCulpa View Post
    I'm an American speaker and writer, and in AmE, the use of the Present Perfect tense is still taught in school and remains alive and well in general usage. It in no way has been replaced with the Past Simple tense, as you claim. The distinction regarding continuing vs. completed action is one which we Americans continue to find entirely useful, and it is a disctinction of which we remain keenly aware.
    I presume the person was referring to some uses of the present perfect in BrE where AmE and other variants, may use the past. Jumping from that to wondering whether it's alive in AmE is something of an over-reaction.

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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    Quote Originally Posted by MiaCulpa View Post
    "Talk with" vs. "talk to," on the other hand, raises the issue of whether two people are speaking to each other on equal terms. "Talk with" implies that they might be. "Talk to" implies that they may not be. A friend "talks with" another. A judge "talks to" a witness.
    For you, perhaps. For me, and for many speakers of BrE, 'talk (verb) with' is not very natural.

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    Re: get married with/ get married to

    Quote Originally Posted by Tdol View Post
    I presume the person was referring to some uses of the present perfect in BrE where AmE and other variants, may use the past. Jumping from that to wondering whether it's alive in AmE is something of an over-reaction.
    Perhaps, although I'd refer you to the original claim: "As far as I know in AE it [the Present Perfect] is very often, if not always, replaced by Past Simple." I was actually somewhat entertained by the allegation. My rhetorical hyperbole and my bug-eyed emoticon friend were supposed to convey bemusement that my countrymen and I were being so infamously characterized. (Ooops, there goes that hyperbole again).
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