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    Hi,

    How different are these two? - get married with / get married to


    Thanks,
    Angelic

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    In my OPINION, one should say "married with", even though the accepted norm is "married to". Similarly, A long ago professor of mine made me aware that it was more polite to say "talk with" instead of "talk to".

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    is married to

    Ali is married to Salma.

    The same way with "get'

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    It would make me cringe if I were to hear someone say "Get married with", and in the same vein, "Talk with".

    It is bloody annoying because it sounds like self censorship stretched to the point of political correctness gone mad.

    AmE is to blame as that is the main proponent of the "...with" usage.

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    AmE is to blame as that is the main proponent of the "...with" usage.

    May I ask where you got this idea? I don't recall hearing native speakers say "to marry with". This is common among Spanish and Portuguese speakers (casarse con & casar-se com).

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    Quote Originally Posted by magimagicE View Post
    It would make me cringe if I were to hear someone say "Get married with", and in the same vein, "Talk with".

    It is bloody annoying because it sounds like self censorship stretched to the point of political correctness gone mad.

    AmE is to blame as that is the main proponent of the "...with" usage.
    Oh, dear, you sound rather annoyed, but I'm afraid you've been misinformed about AmE being the main proponent of the "with" usage. It is not common here. My impression is that when it is occasionally used, it is a mistaken attempt to parallel a phrase in certain marriage ceremonies that refers to one member of a couple being "joined with" another in holy matrimony.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nado92 View Post
    is married to

    Ali is married to Salma.

    The same way with "get'
    I guess you miss the difference between action and state.

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    Well in our company, we were taught during our training that "May I speak with" is a formal way of saying "May I talk to". Like if you are a complete stranger to the person you're calling, you can use "with", but if you have some kind of attachment to the person, then you can freely say "to". So which is which?

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    I would also cringe if someone said "married with".

    As for speaking with or to, "with" is more polite, indicating that it would be a conversation between two people.

    If you say "to" it is more or less a one-way conversation, as in "I need to speak to you regarding your table manners." - a lecture to a child.

    However, in Canada it is generally "speak to".

    I am not a teacher.

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    This is the kind of thing that is best answered by listening to both options and deciding which sounds the most natural and normal. I'd always go with 'to'.

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