1- Not much. They can be used interchangeably a lot of the time, but 'especially' can come after a subject and carry the meaning 'above all', while 'specially' can be used for having 'a particular purpose'.
3- In BrE, we'd be more likely to use 'in'. I think it's a BrE/AE thing, but I'll let an American confirm it.
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