I'm not sure about the cultural/religious background of it (and I don't want to get embroiled in generalisations about certain parts of the world), but men who feel above women generally can be called:
Misogynists (although this an actual hatred of women)
Male chauvinist pig (this is a derogatory, informal phrase)
I don't think there was anything wrong with using "possessive". "Some men are very possessive of their wives" (the same can be said about some wives of their husbands, of course!)
The unfortunate spouse can be called "downtrodden", "under the thumb". Whichever spouse is seen to have all the power in a relationship is said to "wear the trousers"!