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    I came across this structure in a Turkish site.they were discussing usage of your/his/her + Ving as as object.But I am not sure this usage is ok
    eg.
    1-I don't want your going to party (I dont want you to go to party)
    2-I don't want your dying
    3-The man that I don't want his coming to our party

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    Quote Originally Posted by basaksucan View Post
    I came across this structure in a Turkish site.they were discussing usage of your/his/her + Ving as as object.But I am not sure this usage is ok
    eg.
    1-I don't want your going to party (I dont want you to go to party)
    2-I don't want your dying
    3-The man that I don't want his coming to our party

    Thanks in advance
    These below make sense to me

    1. I don't want your going to parties.
    2. I don't want you to die.
    3. I don't want this man coming to our party.

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    Thanks for your fast reply

    why didn't you find correct "your dying".To me , gramaticly "your going " and "your dying " are same
    Last edited by basaksucan; 12-Nov-2010 at 18:59.

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    ***Neither a teacher nor a native speaker.***

    Are you guys really sure about that?
    I have the feeling you're confusing something.

    As far as I know its: His/Her/Yours

    You cannot say, "I don't want his dying."
    You have to say, "I don't want him dying."

    You can also say, "
    I don't want him coming to our party."

    So what do you say about:
    I don't want you to die.

    And:
    I don't want you dying.


    I believe your is not suitable for these sentences.
    However, I would like to see a confirmation.

    Cheers!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nightmare85 View Post
    ***Neither a teacher nor a native speaker.***

    Are you guys really sure about that?
    I have the feeling you're confusing something.

    As far as I know its: His/Her/Yours

    You cannot say, "I don't want his dying."
    You have to say, "I don't want him dying."

    You can also say, "
    I don't want him coming to our party."

    So what do you say about:
    I don't want you to die.

    And:
    I don't want you dying.


    I believe your is not suitable for these sentences.
    However, I would like to see a confirmation. me too


    Cheers!




    thanks a lot

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    I know my first question has not been clarified yet but I have one more releated to it.

    "your being a richman doesn't concern me at all " is it ok? If not ,how can we express stuation like this ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by basaksucan View Post
    I know my first question has not been clarified yet but I have one more releated to it.

    "your being a richman doesn't concern me at all " is it ok? If not ,how can we express stuation like this ?

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    Basaksucan,


    I am also waiting for confirmation from the teachers.

    Until they reply, may I share a few thoughts?

    (1) I do not want you going to the party. (As you said, this is

    just another way to say: I do not want you to go to the party.)

    (2) I do not want you dying. (As e2e4 said, this is just another

    way to say: I do not want you to die.)

    (3) As Nightmare said, the correct sentence might be:

    I don't want him coming to the party.

    When the teachers answer, they will explain why "your" and "his"

    in those sentences are wrong. Let's take "I do not want you dying."

    What are you emphasizing? "You" or "dying"? Probably "You." That is,

    I love you. I do not want YOU to die. Now let's look at this sentence:

    X has died at the age of 25. I am so sad about his dying so young.

    Here we are emphasizing the death. Whose dying makes us so sad?
    His dying.

    *****


    (4) Your last sentence, I think, is fine. I have made just a few

    changes:

    Your being rich doesn't bother me in the least.

    I think that we need to use the possessive ("your") because

    we are answering the question: Whose being rich?

    Answer: Your being rich, Tom's being rich, my friend's being rich.


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