I know my first question has not been clarified yet but I have one more releated to it.
"your being a richman doesn't concern me at all " is it ok? If not ,how can we express stuation like this ?
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Basaksucan,
I am also waiting for confirmation from the teachers.
Until they reply, may I share a few thoughts?
(1) I do not want
you going to the party. (As you said, this is
just another way to say: I do not want
you to go to the party.)
(2) I do not want
you dying. (As
e2e4 said, this is just another
way to say: I do not want
you to die.)
(3) As
Nightmare said, the correct sentence might be:
I don't want
him coming to the party.
When the teachers answer, they will explain why "your" and "his"
in those sentences are wrong. Let's take "I do not want you dying."
What are you emphasizing? "You" or "dying"? Probably "You." That is,
I love you. I do not want YOU to die. Now let's look at this sentence:
X has died at the age of 25. I am so sad about
his dying so young.
Here we are emphasizing the death.
Whose dying makes us so sad?
His dying.
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(4) Your last sentence, I think, is fine. I have made just a few
changes:
Your being rich doesn't bother me in the least.
I think that we need to use the possessive ("your") because
we are answering the question:
Whose being rich?
Answer: Your being rich, Tom's being rich, my friend's being rich.
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