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    May said, "Tom is my boyfriend."

    1. In a conversation, how can we tell whether Tom is an ordinary friend of May or not. In my country, we only say those might have possibility to move to another stage of being husband and wife as boy friend.


    May said, "I love you, Tom."

    2. Again, how can we tell whether that love is between ordinary friends or in intimacy.

    3. Any particular words I should add in the sentence to specify the love between ordinary and intimacy.


    ju

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    Default Re: boy friend

    As part of a conversation, the surrounding context will give you clues about their meaning.

    In isolation they are ambiguous.

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    Default Re: boy friend

    Quote Originally Posted by Ju View Post
    May said, "Tom is my boyfriend."

    1. In a conversation, how can we tell whether Tom is an ordinary friend of May or not. In my country, we only say those might have possibility to move to another stage of being husband and wife as boy friend.


    May said, "I love you, Tom."

    2. Again, how can we tell whether that love is between ordinary friends or in intimacy.

    3. Any particular words I should add in the sentence to specify the love between ordinary and intimacy.


    ju

    ***** NOT A TEACHER *****


    (1) As the teacher told us, this word is ambiguous in isolation.

    (2) Non-native speakers need to be very careful in their use

    of these words.

    (3) For example, here in the United States, many women say

    something like:

    I love to go shopping with my girlfriends. In this case, the word

    simply means "friend."

    BUT a man cannot say:

    I am going to the baseball game with my boyfriends!!! If a man uses

    that word, then the word takes on a meaning having to do with romance.

    (4) I hear that some languages have words that refer to exact

    relationships between two people. English is not that exact.

    (5) Some Americans use the term "significant other." This implies a

    "romantic" aspect to the relationship.

    (6) Here in the United States, the word "friend," too, can mean

    more than just friendship!!! As the teacher told us, context is the

    key. Even the word "roommate" can mean more than, well, "roommate"!!!

    *****

    (7) Americans often use "love" without any romantic overtones.

    It often depends on how you say the word. There was a very

    famous TV show on which one of the male characters fell deeply in

    love with "Mary":

    The man: I love you, Mary.

    Mary (thinking that he meant "like"): Well, I love you, too.

    The man: No, you don't understand, Mary. I (really!!!) LOVE you.

    Mary: OMG!!!

    (I have rewritten the actual dialogue a bit.)

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    Default Re: boy friend

    If a couple are boyfriend and girlfriend, then they are romantically involved. When a romance is not involved (or the participants are denying the romance) it is not uncommon to hear an expression like:

    "She's my girl friend, but she's not my girlfriend."

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    Default Re: boy friend

    If a woman says "boyfriend", it's romantic. Otherwise it's a "guy friend".*


    *in my "milieu"

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