When you take something out, you remove it, for better or worse..
- This product takes some of the drudgery out of housework.
- This change takes the all the fun out of the event.
The back-and-forth means multiple rounds of discussions, I guess. There isn't a lot of back-and-forth about meals in my house. "Hey, we're having chicken tonight." "Sounds great!" -- That's about how it goes.