Re: he would have met her.
The past perfect is not fading away in counterfactual conditionals.
Originally Posted by probus
#1 is a counterfactual conditional, and the past perfect is essential. 'He' did not come to the meeting and he did not meet 'her'.
1. I know for sure that he didn't come to the meeting. If he had come, he would(could/might) have met her
2. I don't know if he came to the meeting. If he came, he would(could/might) have met her.
#2 is very different. It is possible that 'he' came. If he did not come, then clearly he did not meet 'her', but if he came, then it is certain/possible that he met her.
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