Is it bad if a guy calls a girl a "BRAT"? Is it offensive?
I like to joke around - and this guy calls me brat, I thought it was a cute thing 'till a friend of mine told me it wasn't.
What do you think?
Here in the States, it depends entirely on the circumstances involved. Between good friends and family members, it could be a teasing thing. For instance, there is about 15 yrs. difference between one of my younger sisters and I, and there have been plenty of occasions when I've called her a "brat" because she had been pestering me so much. In that sense, it's mildly negative, but in a joking way. So, there are no hard feelings. Instead, she laughs and says, "I know !"
But, I wouldn't advise saying it to someone with whom you're only mildly acquainted.
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After re-reading your post, I was wondering if perhaps you've been teasing the guy who called you a brat. If so, the only way to determine if he's insulting you or not is to consider your relationship: is it a casual one where you guys both play jokes on each other?
I used to tease my guy friends incessantly. They called me a brat from time to time, but anyone who knew me knew I was a prankster. I could take jokes and dish them right back! Now it has come full circle: I have 3 sons who are all like me in that respect, and guess who the recipient of most of their pranks is? Yep--me! And I have called them brats, too. I think the key is knowing where the limits are to a person's patience and sense of humor. That's what I am teaching them. Go beyond acceptable limits, and "brat" will not be the description you will hear.
It's impossible to tell from the word itself, as Sue points out; the context is everything. On its face, the word has pejorative connotations: the prototype "brat" is a spoiled child who whines and complains and pouts when s/he doesn't get things just his/her way. So, byi nature, it isn't a compliment.
BUT, I suspect your bf is trying to tease you in an affectionate and even amorous way though .
Him: Let's go to that new Brad Pitt movie, sweetie. Her: (pretending to pout.... girls like to do that, you know) No, it's too cold out and my feet get chilly, and I don't feel like putting on makeup. Him: (Because she's acting wimpy and girly, and kind of cute in doing so): Why, you little brat face! I'm going to tickle you good for that!
.... you can use your imagination for the balance....who needs Brad Pitt anyway?