Re: Perceiving the right way to write.
I don't really understand what you're getting at. Are you asking if I think that we should have a standard system of spelling? If so, then yes. Do I think everyone should write in the same style? No. You can't call any of them a law. It's not illegal to misspell a word (though sometimes I wish it were!).
There are many ways and styles of using a language but, for me, certain things are set - spelling, the majority of grammar "rules". How we put words and sentences together might be individual but need to make sense.
Remember - correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing make posts much easier to read.