1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
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Are the underlined parts the short forms of had had?
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1. If I had had time to visit yesterday, I would have come to your house.
a. Some native speakers think that "had had" sounds "funny."
i. So they use a contraction because it does not sound so "funny" to them (I'd had)
ii. Some native speakers even use only one "had" -- even though it is "bad" English: If I had time, I would have visited you.
iii. And some Americans use "very bad" English: If I would have had time, I would have visited you.
Had not visited used right here, I would have thought that come in the other sentence is infinitive not participle. Great as always! Bless you, James.