None of your sentences are grammatical.
1) As a general rule, any question that asks whether two phrases are "exactly the same" will usually be answered with "no."
2) Here is how you use this: I want Thing B to happen. To allow Thing B to happen, I do Thing A. I do A so (that) B.
I moved to this town so my children could be in a better school system.
Could you move to your left a little so I can see the stage?
3) No. I want him to do it. I hope he will do it. I order that it be done.