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    Default help me vs for me

    I read the following content from a book:

    -Could you help me give this letter to Jane? " if we ask a person to deliver a letter for me. (incorrect)

    -Could you give this letter to Jane for me"? if we ask a person to deliver a letter for me. (correct)

    In English, to "help someone do something" means you do it with them. When it is not to be done with the person, do not use "help", use' for".

    Mary talked to his husband, she said "Could you please help me to make the dinner". (They will make the dinner together)

    1. Do you agree with the above?

    2. Is it natural to say "Could you please help me with this question?"

    3. If we make requests, is it natural to say "Could you help me, please?"

    Thanks for your help.
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    Default Re: help me vs for me

    Quote Originally Posted by Winwin2011 View Post
    I read the following content from a book:

    -Could you help me give this letter to Jane? " if we ask a person to deliver a letter for me. (incorrect) "Could you help me by giving this letter to Jane?" This is possible.

    -Could you give this letter to Jane for me"? if we ask a person to deliver a letter for me. (correct) Yes.

    In English, to "help someone do something" means you do it with them. When it is not to be done with the person, do not use "help", use' for".

    Mary talked to her husband, she said "Could you please help me to make the dinner". (They will make the dinner together)

    1. Do you agree with the above?

    2. Is it natural to say "Could you please help me with this question?" Yes.

    3. If we make requests, is it natural to say "Could you help me, please?" Yes.

    Thanks for your help.
    Bhai.

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    Default Re: help me vs for me

    Quote Originally Posted by bhaisahab View Post
    Bhai.
    Thanks Bhai.

    In English, to "help someone do something" means you do it with them. When it is not to be done with the person, do not use "help", use' for".

    Mary talked to her husband, she said "Could you please help me to make the dinner". (They will make the dinner together)

    Do you agree with the above?

    If we say "Could you help me? ", does it mean that we ask someone to do it with me?

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    Default Re: help me vs for me

    It depends. Sometimes it means "do it instead of me". In other words, we need interference of the person whose help we ask for.

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    Default Re: help me vs for me

    Quote Originally Posted by Winwin2011 View Post
    Thanks Bhai.

    In English, to "help someone do something" means you do it with them. When it is not to be done with the person, do not use "help", use' for".

    Mary talked to her husband, she said "Could you please help me to make the dinner". (They will make the dinner together)
    Do you agree with the above? Yes.


    If we say "Could you help me? ", does it mean that we ask someone to do it with me? Depends on context i.e. what precedes or follows as in "Could you help me? I need you to deliver this to WinWin." (not together) OR "Could you help me?" I need to deliver this to WinWin and it's too heavy to carry by myself." (together)
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