Recently I have encountered a rule saying that when the anser for the question is "him", "them", "us" then the qestion should start with "whom" (instead of "who").
But above question doesn't stick to this rule. Is it a some exception or the my rule is wrong?
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Please be aware that I'm neither a native English speaker nor a teacher.
When a native-speaker hears someone saying "To whom are you talking?" , what would they think of the speaker? I mean, would they think about the speaker as outdated, pompous or just as a good user of the English Language?
Thanks for your answers in advance
Apart from what I mentioned above I believe, which doesn't mean I'm right, in formal correspondences, it is the proper way one should write.
I am not a teacher.