This is an interesting subject that you've raised. I think that language has been and is being deliberately used by some people as a class barrier. To me, the most important thing about speaking correctly is to be understood correctly, more so with people close to you (family and loved ones) than in business, politics, diplomacy (these are a special bunch of speakers here), etc. The question of intelligence does not arise for me.Originally Posted by CitySpeak
In fact, some people are so very good at communicating without resorting only to words. A picture paints a thousand words. A glance, a gesture, a movement, an expression, all these take a naturally sensitive and/or intelligent person to communicate to another.
The spoken word (as against the written) unavoidably has the greatest impact on the listener. That's because most of us (consciously or unconsciously) use, or react to, unspoken communication based on our personal experiences and our own very personal make-up. Being very personalised, non-verbal communication is so varied that the listener is unaccustomed to reacting or paying greater attention to it than the word which is spoken and heard.
Except for people who have learned or been trained in non-verbal communicative behaviour, we are generally "uneducated" in non-verbal language, unlike a spoken language which is learned and/or taught.
This is one area where women are more "intelligent" than men. A relationship is truly more enriched by the unspoken word than the spoken word.