"Courtly love" refers to a time when men were very genteel and formal in their relationships with women. To put a woman up on a pedestal means to idealize her, to treat her as if she is not average, but something special, a heroine or goddess. But modern women don't appreciate being thought of in that way. They want to be equal to men, capable of doing the same work and accomplishing the same goals. They are able to work hard (perhaps even repair a car) and get their fingernails dirty.