Go easy on yourself! We all make misteaks.
"At the wheel" means when you're in control of something (often, logically enough, a car).
If you're asleep at the wheel, you're not paying attention to what you're supposed to be doing. It doesn't necessarily mean that you're a leader, or you're in command.
"Look away" is an expression, as you note, for averting you eyes so you don't see something you don't want to see.
But "Look away from youself" is different. It means to stop being self-centered, stop thinking about yourself only, start taking an interest in other things, other people. You can't see other people properly if you're looking at yourself.
The advice is good. It's like what the expression I used to use with my children: "You've got the world by the tail."