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Whom is the accusative form of Who.
Who is coming to the party? "Who" is the subject of "is coming".
Whom do you want to speak to? "Whom" is the object of "speak to".
However, in this day and age it is very common to use "who" as both subject and object, certainly in speech. I am not sure anyone will think the worse of you for not using "whom".