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    Hi! I learned "my dear +Name" would only be applied to very close friends or family members. But why did an American address me "my dear Mary" in a forum?(My real name is not Mary.) I was not familiar with him at all, though he helped me now and them in the forum. And he addressed some other forum members "my dear +name". Is it usual?

    He is a poet or a poetry lover. I mean artists usually are more passionate than other people. And I sensed he would be rather elder than us. And is it possible that he considered us his kids by addressing us that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by thedaffodils View Post
    Hi! I learned "my dear +Name" would only be applied to very close friends or family members. But why did an American address me "my dear Mary" in a forum?(My real name is not Mary.) I was not familiar with him at all, though he helped me now and them in the forum. And he addressed some other forum members "my dear +name". Is it usual?

    He is a poet or poem lover. I mean artists usually are more passionate than other people. And I sensed he would be rather elder than us. And it is possible that he considered us his kids by addressing us that?

    Thanks!
    Hi, daffodil!

    You are correct: In the USA "my dear + Name" is usually used when referring to close friends or family members.

    My guess is that the fellow who addressed you in this manner was a.) trying to impress you with his informality, b.) trying to appear to be superior to you, or c.) hoping that you would reciprocate his informality when you replied. I don't believe it has anything to do with his passion for art, poetry, or other creative endeavors!

    In any event, my advice would be to give this fellow the 'formal treatment' until you feel comfortable responding to his informality.

    Cheers,
    Amigo

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    Hi Amigo,

    Thank you for your reply. I hardly go to that forum now, he just somehow popped into my mind.

    1) How do I reciprocate his informality as if he would hope? Could you please give me an example?

    2) Why does "my dear +name" appear to be superior to the listener in such a context?

    Thanks!

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    Quote Originally Posted by thedaffodils View Post
    Hi Amigo,

    Thank you for your reply. I hardly go to that forum now, he just somehow popped into my mind.

    1) How do I reciprocate his informality as if he would hope? Could you please give me an example? "My Dearest Prince Charming, it is so nice to hear from you, again!!!! I have waited all my life to meet someone as wonderful as you seem to be!!!"

    2) Why does "my dear +name" appear to be superior to the listener in such a context? Daffodil, rather than using 'superior', I should probably have used the word 'condescending'. 'Daffodil resented the condescending cordiality of the stranger; he was adressing her as if she were a child.' 'My Dear, Daffodil, surely you know that chewing with your mouth open is impolite!'

    Thanks!
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    Thank you for your help, Amigo.

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