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    Tan Elaine is offline Key Member
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    Default were/are married

    I didn't know you were married. If you hadn't told me, I would not have known you were/are married.

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    Default Re: were/are married

    Quote Originally Posted by Tan Elaine View Post
    I didn't know you were married. If you hadn't told me, I would not have known you were/are married.
    Yes, actually, I am married. What is your concern about it????

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    Quote Originally Posted by Searching for language View Post
    Yes, actually, I am married. What is your concern about it????
    Oh dear! I forgot to ask whether I should use 'are' or 'were'. I believe it should be 'were', but then it would appear that the person concerned is no longer married.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tan Elaine View Post
    Oh dear! I forgot to ask whether I should use 'are' or 'were'. I believe it should be 'were', but then it would appear that the person concerned is no longer married.

    I was just trying to be funny. I knew what you meant.

    "are" idicates that the person is married right now.
    "were" could be either that she/he was married at one time, but now is not, or could mean that she/he is still married.

    "I know that you were married 10 years ago, and I am sad to hear that it didn't last"

    "I heard that you were married/got married last year, congratulations."

    I am not a teacher.

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    Default Re: were/are married

    Thanks, Searching for language.

    I should have known better that you were joking. I had not paid attention to the smiley.

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    Thanks, Searching for language.

    I should have known better that you were joking. I had not paid attention to the smiley.

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    Default Re: were/are married

    Quote Originally Posted by Tan Elaine View Post
    I didn't know you were married. If you hadn't told me, I would not have known you were/are married.

    Were.


    I can't defend this. It's just how we say it. Idiomatic? Is there a grammarian in the house?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charlie Bernstein View Post

    Were.


    I can't defend this. It's just how we say it. Idiomatic? Is there a grammarian in the house?
    Thanks, Charlie.

    It seems 'were' is illogical as I had earlier commented, but then it is idiomatic to use 'were'.

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    Default Re: were/are married

    "Please excuse me, I had no idea that you are married. If I had known, I would not have asked you out on a date."

    YOu could also use were here.

    I am not a teacher.

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    Thanks, Searching for language.

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