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    #1

    Dating = relationship?

    Hello,
    When somebody says:
    I have been dating this girl for 1 month
    does it automatically mean they have been together for 1 month (relationship, she is his girlfriend)?
    It confuses me a little bit because if you don't know someone and you want to meet him you have a date, that means you are dating him/her.
    How could you write the sentence if this one would be wrong:
    I have been dating her for a while, and today I'm going to ask her if she wants to become my girlfriend.
    Would I have to replace dating with another word (example: meeting)?


    Cheers!


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    #2

    Re: Dating = relationship?

    Neither a teacher nor a native-speaker


    Quote Originally Posted by Nightmare85 View Post
    Hello,

    I have been dating her for a while, and today I'm going to ask her if she wants to become my girlfriend.
    Maybe something like these;

    I have been taking her out for dinners for sometime, and today I'm going to ask her if she wants to become my girlfriend.

    or

    We have dated a couple of time, and today I'm going to ask her if she wants to become my girlfriend.

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    #3

    Re: Dating = relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by Nightmare85 View Post
    Hello,
    When somebody says:
    I have been dating this girl for 1 month
    does it automatically mean they have been together for 1 month (relationship, she is his girlfriend)?
    It confuses me a little bit because if you don't know someone and you want to meet him you have a date, that means you are dating him/her.
    How could you write the sentence if this one would be wrong:
    I have been dating her for a while, and today I'm going to ask her if she wants to become my girlfriend.
    Would I have to replace dating with another word (example: meeting)?


    Cheers!

    You could also say "I've been seeing her for a while" or "I've been going out with her for a while". These are mainly BrE expressions I think.

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    #4

    Re: Dating = relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by Nightmare85 View Post
    Hello,
    When somebody says:
    I have been dating this girl for 1 month
    does it automatically mean they have been together for 1 month (relationship, she is his girlfriend)?
    It confuses me a little bit because if you don't know someone and you want to meet him you have a date, that means you are dating him/her.
    How could you write the sentence if this one would be wrong:
    I have been dating her for a while, and today I'm going to ask her if she wants to become my girlfriend.
    Would I have to replace dating with another word (example: meeting)?


    Cheers!

    Be aware that "Do you want to become my girlfriend/boyfriend?"* is not a common question. What does it mean?

    It could mean any of the following (and more):
    Do you want to start dating me regularly?
    Do you want to start dating me exclusively?
    Do you want to have sex with me?
    Do you want start having sex with me exclusively?
    Can I refer to you as 'my girlfriend' to other people?
    Can I tell my parents I've met someone special?
    Can I assume you'll accompany me if a special event comes up?

    Becoming a girlfriend/boyfriend is generally something that a couple falls into by habit, and the actual meaning to the couple covers quite a range of possible relationships. 'Girlfriend/boyfriend' doesn't have the specificity of meaning of fiancee, wife or mistress, for example.
    So this question could easily generate confusion, and an answer of "Maybe. What exactly do you mean by that?"

    *In any case, it's more likely to be "Do you want to be my girlfriend?"

    (All from an Australian perspective)

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    Re: Dating = relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by bhaisahab View Post
    You could also say "I've been seeing her for a while" or "I've been going out with her for a while". These are mainly BrE expressions I think.
    Definitely those are also Canadian expressions. As for the last part of the use of the word "girlfriend" to me, that would imply that they would then be dating exclusively.

    Dating alone could mean that each person is also still seeing/dating other people.

    I am not a teacher.

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