I suspect, though, that you may mean to say something else, namely, that "I really don't want her to feel sorry for me." Therefore, "I won't tell her about my loss."
If this is, indeed, the case, you might want to make it clearer by writing something to the effect of:
"I wouldn't want to tell her about my loss
so that she wouldjust to make her feel sorry for me."
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