Try to work out why. If you are not clear, ask again.[FONT="]"You are one of the few ladies [/FONT][STRIKE]whom[/STRIKE][FONT="] [or who?[/FONT][FONT="]:tick:[/FONT][FONT="]] I have ever contemplated as possibly being worth the commitment."
"[/FONT][FONT="]I can’t help but feel this is over and yet I am struck by the fact that it can hardly be called over – because it never really [/FONT][STRIKE]begun[/STRIKE][FONT="] [or began?[/FONT][FONT="]:tick:[/FONT][FONT="]]."[/FONT]
Let's start with #2, because it's easier. It is possible to create a scenario in which the present perfect is acceptable, but the more natural situation (in my opinion) is that the speaker is thinking of a past time when there was a chance for the relationship to begin, but it did not begin.[FONT="]2. [/FONT][FONT="]I can’t help but feel this is over and yet I am struck by the fact that it can hardly be called over – because it never really begun [or began?[/FONT]
I must admit that some would consider the non-beginning to extend up to the present time. If that's the way you look at it, the present perfect is possible - but then your version should have read, "because it has never really begun".
I have to stop now. I'll return for #1 soon.
That's the way I see it. She is a lady who is worth the commitment,"You are one of the few ladies whom [or who?] I have ever contemplated as possibly being worth the commitment."
[/FONT]Who or whom - Because she is the subject?
I am not a teacher.[FONT="]"You are one of the few ladies whom [or who?] I have ever contemplated as possibly being worth the commitment."[/FONT]