*** NOT A TEACHER ***
Suppose that I am angry, but NOT because of you. So, when I'm talking to you, I try to remain calm and be nice to you; I don't want to take out my anger on you. Now suppose you felt that I did treat you as if I (had) blamed you for my feeling angry.
You: You should not have taken out your anger on me.
Me: But I did not take it out on you!
I hope this helps.
PS: I hope that native speakers correct me if I'm wrong.
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