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    Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    Is the question "Would/Could you mind your own business ?" a polite way to say "Mind your own business !" ?

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    Re: Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    There is no 'polite' way to say, "Mind your own business". More polite ways to say the same thing are numerous and varied, depending on the situation. Some possibilities:

    1. "This is a private matter between ____ and myself. Would you excuse us please?"
    2. "I appreciate your interest, but I prefer to handle it in my own way."
    3. "I want to try it my way but, if I need help, I know just where to turn."

    4. "Go peddle your papers!" could be said to be just as firm, but slightly less confrontational- more jokingly.

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    Re: Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    Quote Originally Posted by J&K Tutoring View Post
    There is no 'polite' way to say, "Mind your own business". More polite ways to say the same thing are numerous and varied, depending on the situation. Some possibilities:

    1. "This is a private matter between ____ and myself. Would you excuse us please?"
    2. "I appreciate your interest, but I prefer to handle it in my own way."
    3. "I want to try it my way but, if I need help, I know just where to turn."

    4. "Go peddle your papers!" could be said to be just as firm, but slightly less confrontational- more jokingly.
    But is "Would/Could you mind your own business ?" a correct, although not overly friendly way to tell somebody to"buzz off" ?

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    Re: Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    Quote Originally Posted by birgit33 View Post
    But is "Would/Could you mind your own business ?" a correct, although not overly friendly way to tell somebody to"buzz off" ?
    Yes, though I'd say 'fairly unfriendly' rather than 'not overly friendly'. Friends who are on jocularly insulting terms would probably drop the 'could/would you'.

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    Re: Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    Quote Originally Posted by fivejedjon View Post
    Yes, though I'd say 'fairly unfriendly' rather than 'not overly friendly'. Friends who are on jocularly insulting terms would probably drop the 'could/would you'.
    Yes, I know "Mind your own business" is (quite) rude, so I'm trying to undo it from its rudest edges, but still wanting to send a "strong" message, which is (still) within the borders of politeness, if you know what I mean...

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    Re: Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    Post #2 has some useful suggestions. The second is pretty firm.

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    Re: Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    I would say that any sentence which includes the words "Mind your own business", even if preceded or followed by other words, would not be described as "polite" to any extent.

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    Re: Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    Quote Originally Posted by birgit33 View Post
    Yes, I know "Mind your own business" is (quite) rude, so I'm trying to undo it from its rudest edges, but still wanting to send a "strong" message, which is (still) within the borders of politeness, if you know what I mean...

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    (1) As the teachers have said, there is no polite way to use the words "mind your own

    business." (For some people, those are "fighting words.")

    (2) Actually if you really want to send a "strong" message without being

    openly rude, you can always use the ultimate "weapon": SILENCE.

    (3) For example, if someone says something that you feel is putting his/her

    nose in your business, simply smile and say absolutely nothing. He/she will soon

    get the message that he/she is out of line. Silence is powerful and terrifying to us

    human beings.

    (4) If someone writes something to you that you feel is out of line, simply do not

    dignify it with an answer.

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    Re: Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    Quote Originally Posted by birgit33 View Post
    Is the question "Would/Could you mind your own business ?" a polite way to say "Mind your own business !" ?

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    (1) If you insist on using the word "business," you could try this method (which

    is firm yet not overly rude):

    Mona: I hear that you are dating Tony.

    Sue: That's right.

    Mona: If I were you, I wouldn't date him. He belongs to religion X, you know.

    Sue: (BIG smile) I think that's my business, don't you? (BIG smile)

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    Re: Would/Could you mind your own business ?

    Quote Originally Posted by birgit33 View Post
    Yes, I know "Mind your own business" is (quite) rude, so I'm trying to undo it from its rudest edges, but still wanting to send a "strong" message, which is (still) within the borders of politeness, if you know what I mean...
    Intonation could also affect the strength- an angry person could say Would you mind your own business with a heavy emphasis on would as a way of expressing real anger or exasperation.

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