Results 1 to 5 of 5
    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • Chinese
      • Home Country:
      • Hong Kong
      • Current Location:
      • Hong Kong

    • Join Date: Nov 2006
    • Posts: 1,659
    #1

    congratulations or best wishes

    Bo has just got married.

    1. Should we say congratulations or best wishes in person to her?
    2. Is there any differences? Someone said we should say best wishes but not congratulations.


    Ju

  1. bhaisahab's Avatar
    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • British English
      • Home Country:
      • England
      • Current Location:
      • Ireland

    • Join Date: Apr 2008
    • Posts: 25,626
    #2

    Re: congratulations or best wishes

    Quote Originally Posted by Ju View Post
    Bo has just got married.

    1. Should we say congratulations or best wishes in person to her?
    2. Is there any differences? Someone said we should say best wishes but not congratulations.


    Ju
    You could say either, I'd be more likely to say congratulations.

  2. Bennevis's Avatar
    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • Russian
      • Home Country:
      • Russian Federation
      • Current Location:
      • Russian Federation

    • Join Date: Aug 2011
    • Posts: 1,052
    #3

    Re: congratulations or best wishes

    Felicitations!

    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • American English
      • Home Country:
      • United States
      • Current Location:
      • United States

    • Join Date: Apr 2009
    • Posts: 12,310
    #4

    Re: congratulations or best wishes

    I was taught not to congratulate the bride. You may wish her well, or good luck, etc.

    The implication being that congratulating the bride can be understood that she had difficulty finding a man and that she finally "won."

  3. Barb_D's Avatar
    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • American English
      • Home Country:
      • United States
      • Current Location:
      • United States

    • Join Date: Mar 2007
    • Posts: 19,221
    #5

    Re: congratulations or best wishes

    Indeed. Traditional ettiquette, which is rarely observed, is "best wishes" to the bride, and "congratulations" to the groom.

    Miss Manner wrote a funny column on this once, and just as Dave said, you don't want the bride to think you are saying "Thank goodness you were finally able to land a man!"

    Truth be told, I say "congratulations" without thinking of this very often.
    I'm not a teacher, but I write for a living. Please don't ask me about 2nd conditionals, but I'm a safe bet for what reads well in (American) English.

Similar Threads

  1. congratulations on/congratulations for
    By jibou in forum Ask a Teacher
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 24-Jan-2009, 16:52
  2. congratulations
    By beachboy in forum Ask a Teacher
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 16-Aug-2008, 04:32
  3. Congratulations
    By Perleto in forum Ask a Teacher
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 07-Mar-2008, 23:42

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •