Student or Learner
Would you please paraphrase the following in red more easily?
The healthiest wants are completely within your control, and normally include an element of how you will show up in a specific situation. For example, your answer to the third question (What do you really want for your self?) might be, "I want to contribute at a level where I feel of value." You have control over the level of your contribution and how you feel.
Is this saying "I want to make a contribution which is recognized as valuable by others and myself"?
I'd guess that with "show up" the OP is trying to say "appear", as in the image s/he will present.
Thank you all for the help.