Formal: Young adults do not have kids and a family for whom they are responsible.
Less formal: Young people do not have kids and a family (who) they are responsible for.
You first sentence, "Young adults do not have kids and a family for who they are responsible", is an unfortunate mix of the formal and less formal.
Please try to give your threads more helpful titles - 'For who ...?' would have been fine for this.
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