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This is about the value of truly accepting emotions as they are, not denying them. And I can't understand what the underlined means, not even a bit of clue.
ex)Genuine acceptance of emotions cannot be conditional or instrumental. If the only reason we give ourselves the permission to be human is as a means to an end - so that we can succeed more, for instance- then we are engaging in what I think of as pseudo-acceptance....Genuine acceptance is about accepting that we are upset and then accepting that we might not feel better even though we accept that we are upset.
Here, "being human" means having human emotions. To permit ourselves to be human is to allow ourselves to have human emotions. According to the author, we shouldn't see allowing ourselves to have emotions as a means to an end.