Retired English Teacher
It may not be our minds, but the environment. Toronto is very multi-racial and multicultural, and my African classmates during my last degree were in agreement they've never seen all of the world's races truly integrated the way they are here. I take the question as something like "do you think she looks more like you or her mother?" Yes, I find it a bit close to the bone, but no, I don't think it's off limits, as you can see what a person is in most cases.