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    How to reject nicely?

    If someone ask me something like "Would you like to get a ride home?" or "Would you like to come in for a drink"

    I really do not know what to say, is saying just a word "No" impolite? Do I say "its ok", "never mind"?

    How do I reject politely? Please list down all the suitable sentences that can be used for all circumstances

    Thanks

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    Re: How to reject nicely?

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    "No, I'm fine, thank you."
    That should suffice. Note that it's not just what you say but how you say it that conveys politeness or disrespect. Are you being asked by native speakers or learners? If it's the latter, I'm not sure how it will come across to them.

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    Re: How to reject nicely?

    Quote Originally Posted by SlickVic9000 View Post
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    "No, I'm fine, thank you."
    That should suffice. Note that it's not just what you say but how you say it that conveys politeness or disrespect. Are you being asked by native speakers or learners? If it's the latter, I'm not sure how it will come across to them.
    So how should you say "No, I'm fine, thank you." so that it conveys politeness and how would you say it if you wanted to sound disrespectful?
    Please note that I'm not a teacher.

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    Re: How to reject nicely?

    "No" alone is usually impolite. You should thank the person for the offer, even if you don't want or need what they are offering. (Unless they are telemarketers calling your home.)

    As Vic say "Oh, no thank you. I'm all set" or "Thank you, but I'm fine" or simply "No, thank you." is all you need for most of us.
    I'm not a teacher, but I write for a living. Please don't ask me about 2nd conditionals, but I'm a safe bet for what reads well in (American) English.

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    Re: How to reject nicely?

    Do you usually add a reason after saying no?

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    Re: How to reject nicely?

    Quote Originally Posted by CarloSsS View Post
    So how should you say "No, I'm fine, thank you." so that it conveys politeness and how would you say it if you wanted to sound disrespectful?
    It's difficult to describe in words. If you really want to hear it, email me and I'll make a recording.

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    Re: How to reject nicely?

    Quote Originally Posted by goodstudent View Post
    Do you usually add a reason after saying no?
    It's not necessary to add the full reason but saying "No thanks, I'm fine" or "No thanks, I'm all sorted" conveys the message that you have made your own arrangements and don't need a lift. There's no need to say "No thanks, I've already arranged for my brother's girlfriend to pick me up in her car at 11pm".
    Remember - if you don't use correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing, anything you write will be incorrect.

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