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    My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    Hello,
    Sometimes I use the word "my friend" in the forum but I have noticed that some moderators have not liked the way I address them and they have told me that it's not appropriate the way I address them in the forum.
    Would you please be kind enough to make it clear that why using "my friend" is not ok to be used to a person who is not my friend? But it brings friendship even between two persons who are not friends. Isn't it a respectful way to address a person who is not my friend?
    I got surprised when moderators warned me not to use it.

    Thank you very much.

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    Re: My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    Quote Originally Posted by sb70012 View Post
    Sometimes I use the word "my friend" in the forum but I have noticed that some moderators have not liked the way I address them and they have told me that it's not appropriate the way I address them in the forum.
    Would you please be kind enough to make it clear that why using "my friend" is not ok to be used to a person who is not my friend?
    It's simply not an appropriate form of address in English.
    But it brings friendship even between two persons who are not friends.
    No, it doesn't.
    Isn't it a respectful way to address a person who is not my friend?
    You have been told that it is not appropriate.
    I got surprised when moderators warned me not to use it.
    Why should you be surprised when a moderator, or anyone else who responds here, tells you if you use the language inappropriately? One of the reasons most members come here is to have their mistakes corrected.

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    Re: My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    Thanks for answering. Then what would you call them to be polite? Will you use titles? [Mrs./Ms./Miss./Mrs] or Sir?
    Suppose that you don't know what her name or his name is. Then how would you call him/her?
    In our country when we don't exactly know the person's name, we usually say "my friend"
    What about you native English speakers? I mean how would you call the person on that time?

    Thank you.

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    Re: My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    Quote Originally Posted by sb70012 View Post
    Thanks for answering. Then what would you call them to be polite? Will you use titles? [Mrs./Ms./Miss./Mrs] or Sir?
    Suppose that you don't know what her name or his name is. Then how would you call him/her?
    In our country when we don't exactly know the person's name, we usually say "my friend"
    What about you native English speakers? I mean how would you call the person on that time?

    Thank you.
    If we don't know a person's name, we generally use no form of address in Britain.

    In many countries, some form of address equivalent to 'sir' or 'madam' is used, but that is not normal in English except by police and customs officers and some (but by no means all) people in some service industries.
    Last edited by 5jj; 09-Nov-2013 at 20:13.

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    Re: My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    We don't need to be addressed as anything at all. The most you need to write at the start of a post is "Hello/Hi" and even that is not necessary. You don't need to waste time and typing on unnecessary words in a post. The learners and the teachers are all busy. There is nothing wrong with simply making a post with a relevant title, and then writing "Please can you help me with the following ..." or something similar. You don't need a greeting or a salutation, nor any closing statement like "Thanks in advance" or "I look forward to reading your replies".

    Short and to the point is best.
    Remember - if you don't use correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing, anything you write will be incorrect.

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    Re: My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    Personally, I have no objection to a "thank you" as well as a "please."

    However, I've simply stopped responding to posts that start with "Sir." It tells me the person doesn't expect an intelligent answer from a female and I'd hate to prove them wrong.
    I'm not a teacher, but I write for a living. Please don't ask me about 2nd conditionals, but I'm a safe bet for what reads well in (American) English.

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    Re: My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    Thanks everybody.
    What if the person who you are friend with, is your best and close friend? I mean is it appropriate to call him/her "my friend" or not? Suppose yourself, have you ever called/addressed your best and close friend "my friend" while meeting him/her?

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    Re: My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    Quote Originally Posted by sb70012 View Post
    Thanks everybody.
    What if the person who you are friend with, is your best and close friend? I mean is it appropriate to call him/her "my friend" or not? Suppose yourself, have you ever called/addressed your best and close friend "my friend" while meeting him/her?
    Yes, people call their friends "my friend".

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    Re: My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    Quote Originally Posted by MikeNewYork View Post
    Yes, people call their friends "my friend".
    Thanks for answering but I meant addressing him/her face to face "my friend"
    For example, hello my friend how are you?
    Did you mean this?

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    Re: My friend [Used to address a person who is not my friend]

    Quote Originally Posted by sb70012 View Post
    Thanks for answering but I meant addressing him/her face to face "my friend"
    For example, hello my friend how are you?
    Did you mean this?
    Yes.

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