Student or Learner
I said " He said to me...." when I was having a conversation with my friend who is English,
and when I said "... said to me" I thought it was grammatically correct but then
she amended my words to "He told me. Say he told me."
So I go, "Ok, he told me..." But I remember Oprah winfrey saying "He said to me.." "Someone said to me..."
"When I met her she said to me..." on her show very much so I thought it was okay to say it like that.
But is it? Maybe it's an american thing?
Please help me.
You can use "He said to me" or "He told me" depending on context. In the context you gave "He told me that he was, in fact, a girl" would be more natural because he imparted information.
Learners frequently say "He told to me", which is incorrect.
Remember - if you don't use correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing, anything you write will be incorrect.