[Grammar] "He told me that he in fact is a girl" "He said to me that he in fact is a girl"

[anniey799]

"He told me that he in fact is a girl" "He said to me that he in fact is a girl"

I said " He said to me...." when I was having a conversation with my friend who is English,
and when I said "... said to me" I thought it was grammatically correct but then
she amended my words to "He told me. Say he told me."
So I go, "Ok, he told me..." But I remember Oprah winfrey saying "He said to me.." "Someone said to me..."
"When I met her she said to me..." on her show very much so I thought it was okay to say it like that.
But is it? Maybe it's an american thing?
Please help me.

 

[emsr2d2]

Re: "He told me that he in fact is a girl" "He said to me that he in fact is a girl"

You can use "He said to me" or "He told me" depending on context. In the context you gave "He told me that he was, in fact, a girl" would be more natural because he imparted information.

Learners frequently say "He told to me", which is incorrect.