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    The usage of "if" and if that is considered rude

    Let's say my friend is in another country, and me and him are chatting. If he told me is getting a really bad headache, would it be rude to say "You should probably sleep". Usually, when people have a bad headache and they sleep, they get better. I just want him to get better.

    If I say "if I was to be in the same country, I would take care of him." Does this imply that even if I am not in the same country as he is, I want him to get better? What does this imply? or does it imply that if I wasn't, I won't be able to take care of him?

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    Re: The usage of "if" and if that is considered rude

    Quote Originally Posted by FeemSoul View Post
    Let's say my friend is in another country, and me and him are chatting. If he told me is getting a really bad headache, would it be rude to say "You should probably sleep". Usually, when people have a bad headache and they sleep, they get better. I just want him to get better.

    If I say "if I was to be in the same country, I would take care of him." Does this imply that even if I am not in the same country as he is, I want him to get better? What does this imply? or does it imply that if I wasn't, I won't be able to take care of him?
    If you fear to be rude, you can say something like this: "maybe you should go and take a rest first. We can chat later" or "I wish to be in...so that I can take care of you!"

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    Re: The usage of "if" and if that is considered rude

    1 You could ask something like Why don't you get some sleep/rest? as a way of suggesting it to him.

    2 I would use If I were in the same country, I would take care of him, which implies that I am not in the same country.

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