The 'were' belongs with 'to', which comes later.
Let's take a simpler example:
'I would be very annoyed were you to be late for our meeting'.
It means 'I would be very annoyed if you were to be late for our meeting.
The original quote could be rephrased like this:
'...the bad feeling that would result if a living relative...were to complain...'
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